I can’t believe it has been almost a month since my girls started school. We have settled into a routine now and have been so lucky that they’ve taken to school really well, despite a little wobble on the first day. Sending your child off to school is a big thing for any parent, but sending multiples has it’s positives and negatives. Of course, they always have each other for moral support so it doesn’t feel like such a scary thing, however I’ve found other problems that your twins may face at school that you didn’t realise would be SUCH a problem!

  1. No one can tell them apart. Of course, my girls are identical twins so we have the added dimension that actually yes, they are going to be really hard to tell apart. Saying that, they do look really quite different and children they’ve known for years still all them the wrong name. I have tried to step back and stop correcting them and let the girls do it themselves but so far it isn’t a huge thing. I do worry in the future it will be and constantly having to correct someone as to what your name is probably would pee you off!
  2. To separate or keep them together? I agonised over this decision as our school gives you the option to keep your twins together or separate. A lot of others schools only have one reception class or others have a strict policy of separating. I am glad we had the choice, despite struggling at times, as I felt more in control and included in my daughters schooling options. After a wobble on the first day, which saw one get upset; seeing her sister swoop in and take her hand and wipe her tears I knew instantly that I’d made the right choice.
  3. Invites to friends houses. This is a tricky one because I am keen for them to form their own friendship groups, which I have never voiced to them. They naturally seem to be separating and making their own group of friends whilst still happily playing together. I can see the whole going to peoples houses to play being quite a problem. You see, most people would not want to take two extra children home with them for a play date. In the same vain, if only one is invited I am going to be left with another left out daughter who will feel rejected! This one is going to be the biggest problem of all, trying to strike the right balance. I just hope it doesn’t lead to them never being invited anywhere for fear of people upsetting them.
  4. Competition. Academically the girls are VERY different. I have one who is incredibly into drawing and colouring whereas her sister simply cannot be arsed. I can already see glimmers of a competitive nature, usually over silly things. They now tell people that “she’s older, but I’m taller” giving a sense of having to be the best at something. I think this can be said for most siblings but it’s amplified with twins.
  5. Double EVERYTHING. WE were given reading books last week and it has dawned on me how much there is to do. They have different books but to be able to read purely one to one is almost impossible, as the others always wants to join in. Homework aside, I have gone from making one packed lunch to three and have to remember various PE and forest school days. I have started family learning and I have to write out two of everything and help with two sets of tasks.

Sometimes I wish I had a twin to help me out!

B xx


When we found out we were expecting identical twins, I had visions of little darlings skipping off holding hands, cuddling, kissing wearing matching clothes looking exactly the same. The reality is somewhat different; we still have the holding hands, kissing and cuddling but we also have brutal brawls, endless bickering, tears, tantrums and some serious attitude. Welcome to the real life of identical twins.

Social media reinforces this stereotypes that identical twins have this magical inseparable bond with magical superhuman powers where they can read each others minds, or feel each others pain. In reality? My experience of identical twins has been very different to the cute memes shared across Facebook. They may genetically identical, but they have completely individual tastes, likes and schedules. To say they are identical twins, they are polar opposites. Here are some myths constantly perpetuated about identical twins;

They don’t instantly love each other.

I was expecting from the second they were born that they would not want to be apart. 37 weeks spent curled up together in the womb would surely mean they would find comfort together? We put them in the same fish tank in hospital but we actually found they settled better separately. When at home, only naps were taken in the same moses basket and they went on to top and tail in a cot. Now whilst they share a bedroom, they don’t sleep right next to each other.

They don’t always wants to be joined at the hip.

This is one of my worries when they go to school that people will automatically think they can’t ask one without the other. They rarely get the chance to spend time one on one as my husband works away during threw week, plus we have more children than adults in our house so we can never have a 1-1 ratio. They do relish in time apart, but often spend most of it asking where their sister is. I think over time this will change but we try to encourage it but let them choose ultimately.

They don’t always have their own language.

Granted, my girls are just about to turn four, but we don’t have any coded secret language which only they understand. If anything, I am the ally as “she looked at my bag of crisps” or “she won’t give me the stone I like” Yes. All the important problems in life, Mama can solve them, apparently.

There isn’t an evil twin.

Don’t ask me that, it’s not OK. My answer is simple: they can both be equally as lovely or evil as each other!

Despite identical DNA, they don’t always look identical.

I think my girls look so very very different. I know, I am going to say that aren’t I? Most people who spend a bit of time with the girls agree how easy they are to tell apart. P1 has a rounded face and larger eyes like her Dad, opposed to her skinnier sister who looks so much like her brother and I.

We are only four years into our “twin” journey and are now facing decisions that are more difficult than I thought they would be. With twins, starting school is proving to be such a mind meddle as I don’t know what to do for the best. I know it’ll all work itself out, but the Mum guilt is amplified with twins as it’s a whole new ball game – one I have zero experience of. My motto for twins is to go with the flow and wing it. It’s worked for the last four years, long may it continue!
B xx


First of all – wow. You are about to embark on the craziest, scariest, most daunting journey your life will ever take. I bet your head is spinning after seeing two blobs on your scan sending you into complete shock; that’s normal. I found out we were having twins on 11th December 2012 and believe me, the shock of twins despite being around me 24/7 has not waned!

After the shock comes utter exhilaration “I can’t believe I’m having twins” is a phrase that you will blurt out to complete strangers. In time this will be replaced by “I can’t believe I had twins” And I don’t ever think I will. It is so incredibly exciting the thought of being doubly blessed and get to be part of a very special exclusive club and that’s just awesome. Well done you!

Sadly, the unbridled excitement shifts a little to make way for nerves. Google is not your friend. It will scare the holy crap out of you and put you on edge for your pregnancy. Google convinced me my pregnancy would be a risky one and my babies would be tiny and premature (all of which I know can happen but didn’t, and I struggled to read a positive twin pregnancy and birth article!) Nerves are to be expected. I mean you’ve been transformed from regular run of the mill pregnant lady to a VIPP (very important pregnant person!) who gets scans every couple of weeks, oodles more appointments not to mention priority for your own room post birth. It can seem all a bit overwhelming as everyone has to point out that carrying twins brings more complications but whilst some do, just as some singleton pregnancies do, not all do! View Post


How to move house with twins? DON’T!

Yes, we are currently mid-move and it’s proving nigh on impossible. For every one thing I pack away, they manage to unpack at least 5. Chasing your tail would be a complete understatement as I attempt to do anything when they are on the prowl.


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I am on a number of twin related Facebook groups and every so often there will be a discussion about “do you dress your twins the same” and it provokes some full blown arguments, fights and insults!

See dressing twins is an incredibly marmite topic and everyone seems to have a very definite opinion on it. You have team “it is so cute” vs team “you will mentally scar them for life”. You will get the occasional middle of the road person (which I would like to think I am) but in no uncertain terms do I think dressing baby/toddler twins the same will have a negative impact on their lives. Now that’s not a medically, scientifically or whatever else you want to say proven analysis – no it’s just my PERSONAL OPINION (just incase there’s any trolls in the house)

My girls are identical. We know this as I did a DNA test which again for the benefit of the trolls was our OWN decision that we made, namely so the girls will grow up knowing. It had absolutely nothing to do with the fact that we wanted them to be either identical or fraternal (they’re our kids so we will kinda love them no matter what ok?!) So with being identical they’re the same gender which you may think is glaringly obvious but the amount of parents of boy/girl twins who say they are constantly asked if they’re identical is somewhat hilarious. But yes, two girls. After having a boy we exploded in overload of buying a different gender selection of clothes and I sort of went into autopilot and brought two of everything. I don’t think I ever consciously decided that I would dress them the same its just…happened. Most people when buying them clothes buy two of the same so they have a lot of matching items.

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As the title says it’s twins, multiples & more week. Despite knowing for almost 18 months and having them here for almost 13 months – I still cannot believe I have twins.

It’s hard work but quite honestly the most amazing experience you can have. Seeing how two little girls who are identical genetically are so different personality wise. How they have their own quirky little traits. Watching each day their bond start to grow and strengthen.
Having twins on occasions can make you feel like a minor celebrity! You rarely can go somewhere without someone stopping you and asking you all about them. Then there’s people who smile from afar or wave at them and tell me I’ve got my hands full and I’ve even people who stop and point like they have 3 heads!!
These two girls have certainly had a huge impact on our family and despite having almost doubled our family in size, resulted in us having to move house and buy a different car – they have brought so much happiness, laughter and love to our lives. If ever in the future we decided to have another baby – I’d love it to be twins again! It’s amazing to be part of a very elite club where there’s two (or three or maybe more!) of everyone and in twins, multiples and more week – hats off up all mamas pregnant with multiples, with newborn multiples, toddler multiples or grown up multiples – I think we all are doing a pretty awesome job!
Twins, Multiples & More Week
B x

Baby led weaning twins – I know everyone thought I was crazy. I have to admit – I too was skeptical. The thought of two babies feeding themselves and choking absolutely petrified me. The thought of the time, mess & waste seemed like a complete headache I really didn’t need aside to our already completely manic days. I didn’t want to admit my babies were growing up and becoming people and that our little 4 hourly milk feeds was about to go totally out the window. So here we are at 8.5 months. And I’ve a confession.

I absolutely LOVE baby led weaning my twins! I love meal times. I   Love planning and preparing what the girls can have next and aside to sometimes lacking inspiration. I’m really enjoying seeing the girls feeding themselves. And furthermore can’t believe how they pretty much eat EVERYTHING!
I must admit I’m not 100% purist as I have and do spoon feed the girls some things such as potato, beans etc and in they earlier days even gave them puréed foods but I have yet to give them food from a jar or packet. Something I was convinced I’d end up resorting to when the thought of feeding two babies meant I’d be sat there for hours. But no. They’re pretty speedy eaters when hungry!
I’m not a great eater myself. I’m very fussy & it’s something I tried so hard not to pass on but sadly Charlie too is a faddy eater despite my attempts so everything crossed that the girls buck the trend and are good little munchers!!
B x