Being a Mother – The Ordinary Moments

Today is Mothering Sunday. A day where you show your Mother how much she means to you – whether that be by breakfast in bed, a handmade card, a bunch of flowers or a simple thank you and I love you. But it can also be a bittersweet day for so many including myself. To those who have lost their Mothers, those who desperately want to be Mothers, those no longer with relationships with their Mothers. 

Being a Mother has been the hardest yet rewarding title I’ve ever been given. From the moment you see a big cross on a pregnancy test, you take on this role and spend each day treading this new path on which you have no idea if you’re doing it right. Hoping that you are making the best decisions and not making a hash of it. 

I have been a Mother, as such, for nine years with my eight & three month year old. He taught me everything I know but each day brings new challenges as he grows and at school we constantly enter new territory. I may have thrown my parenting knowledge book out the window when I had the girls, as not only twins but girls are a whole new ball game. 

Being a Mother is a 24/7 job. Even when they aren’t with you, you’re constantly planning, thinking, worrying – there is no off button. Your babies shape and fork everything you do. All decisions are made around them and hopefully for their greater good. 

Whilst being a Mother can be so hard, it too is simply amazing. Your heart bursts with pride when they first roll over, tell you they love you, bring home a handmade card, get a brilliant parents evening report. They call you and you alone “Mommy” and no matter what year we check off on the calendar, you’re never too old to want your Mom. 

At 31, I still want my Mom. When I’ve had a bad day or exciting news, she’s always the one I want to tell – exactly the same as my 3 and 8 year olds feel. It’s something that’s ingrained in you from an early age that never goes away. 

I don’t have the luxury to spoil my Mom on Mothers Day but I have my own little family that ease the chasm of grief is ever present. They make me laugh, make me happy and make me feel complete. Being a Mother is so much more than I ever could imagine. Today and every day.

B x  

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  1. Lorna Ledger
    26th March 2017 / 4:54 pm

    Happy Mothers Day lovely xx I am sorry to hear about your Mum, but you have the beautiful gift of Motherhood yourself xx

  2. 26th March 2017 / 6:43 pm

    I can only imagine how hard mother’s day is when your mum is gone x

  3. 26th March 2017 / 7:56 pm

    Such a beautiful and well written post, I had a tear in my eye reading it. Happy Mothers Day x #TheOrdinaryMoments

  4. 26th March 2017 / 8:37 pm

    I can’t imagine how hard a day like today is. My mum had her first Mother’s Day without her own mum and even at the age of 68 years old, that was tough for her. I don’t think you ever loose that feeling of just wanting your mum. Lots of love x

  5. MARGARET gallagher
    26th March 2017 / 10:38 pm

    HAPPY mother’s day love to you all
    It’s not the big things that MAKE everyday SPECIAL it’s the little smile the little hello the little Thankyou -its wonderful

  6. 27th March 2017 / 3:42 pm

    Beautifully written. I hope you had a lovely day and I am sure your Mum would be very proud of the Mum you are x #ordinarymoments

  7. 27th March 2017 / 5:12 pm

    I hope you had a lovely Mother’s Day Beth, I can’t imagine how hard it must be when you are missing such an important person in your life. I am sending you my love. x

  8. 27th March 2017 / 8:52 pm

    I hope you had a lovely Mothers Day. Your Mum would be so proud of you – sending so much love, I know how hard it is x

  9. 27th March 2017 / 9:31 pm

    It must be so difficult to not have your mum there to call on when you want to tell her something, it’s definitely ingrained in us all. I’m glad you have such a lovely family to give you so much love though. xx

  10. 28th March 2017 / 9:09 am

    I hope you had a lovely day, it can be so hard at these times to be sad and also to be happy too, lots of love x

  11. 30th March 2017 / 10:38 pm

    I can’t even begin to imagine how much you must miss your mum. I hope you had a wonderful Mother’s Day and that your gorgeous kids spoilt you rotten. xxx

  12. 31st March 2017 / 1:32 pm

    Oh darling, I hope you had a lovely day and whatever you do, wherever you go, I’m sure your Mum knows just how much she means to you. Whatever you believe happens to us when we’re gone, I genuinely think a mother’s love never goes anywhere. Her love is still all around you. Big love xxx #TheOrdinaryMoments