Why We All Need Mum Mates

As soon as you pee in your hand that little white stick and the word PREGNANT pops up, your whole life is about to change. As you wave a pee soaked stick around screaming, the enormity of what is about to happen really isn’t top of the list, as your brain goes into overdrive about due dates, pushchairs, maternity leave, the gender, if it’ll inherit it’s Dads big nose…  What you don’t bargain for is five years down the line when your stood on the playground and you yourself feel like you’re back at school. Gulp. 

The school playground is a daunting place  whether you’re 5 or 35. It instantly brings back all the feelings you experienced as a kid as you stand holding hands with your little mini me. Not knowing anyone is a scary thought, even so as an adult. September is a period new-ness and where everyone is adjusting and getting to grips with our new surroundings. New faces, new routines; sometimes you just want a familiar face to make it all OK. Step forward your new friends for the foreseeable.

We all need Mom mates.

They just GET it. They are there when you’re having a crap day, they are there to remind you that you need a PE kit on Monday, reading books on Tuesdays, wellies on Wednesdays, 50p on Thursdays and to collect your kid at 3.45pm on a Friday! When it’s raining and you have newborn twins, they are there to take your son in. They are there when you’ve had a bad night. They understand when your partner has been a bit of a d*ck and are there to say rude words to make you feel better. They are there to make it easier when you need a little sob after the Christmas play when you realise your baby is SO big!

I can’t imagine not having a gaggle of mates that I see on a daily basis. Whether you like it or not, school gate friends are going to play a huge part in your life for primary school. Your children are going to want to have mates over to play, chat about these kids daily and sometimes even have fallings out. I like that I have a set of mates that I can ask their opinions on; whether it be the level of homework the teacher has set or to whinge about not getting any sleep last night due to a grumpy baby. They save your sanity. They make the relentlessness monotony of the school run more bearable.

If there’s one thing you can do – try to make some Mom mates, trust me. It’ll be the best thing you ever did!

B xx

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  1. Bev
    15th September 2016 / 7:03 am

    Very true! Just don’t force your kids together! I hated that….Mum would try and push her friends kids and me together. Never worked out!

  2. Margaret Gallagher
    15th September 2016 / 4:54 pm

    Can’t beat a bit of mummy friendship
    Moan laugh or bit of adult chatter -can’t beat it

  3. Clare Munden
    17th September 2016 / 12:46 pm

    I completely agree! I have friends that aren’t parents and they don’t ‘get it’ when it comes to mummy problems

  4. kim neville
    17th September 2016 / 2:35 pm

    Yes definitely need your mummy friends. It’s nice to meet up in the hols so while the kids play you can have a natter

  5. jackie beckett
    17th September 2016 / 5:33 pm

    I agree same with grannies you cant beat granny natters

  6. 21st September 2016 / 8:37 pm

    I can’t seem to make any mum mates at the kids school, maybe something to do with the fact that I often take my two to the school bus before my morning coffee when I communicate only in grunts.