You Don’t Like Me? That’s OK!

Call me old, call me cynical, you may even call me rude but I have had some mini epiphany about people I know, people I don’t know and just generally people in the world. I have realised that:

I have always worried about what people will think of me; I have struggled with self confidence thanks to having really bad skin so would always presume that when talking to me people would think I was a bit gross as I have acne ridden skin. Sounds a tad crazy doesn’t it? But it’s just quite sad. I desperately wanted people to like me as the thought of people laughing about me or ridiculing me upset me so much and I’m unable to explain why.

As a person, until I know you I can be incredibly shy and this has often been interpreted as sheer arrogance on my part. I never wanted to stand out so for years I dyed my hair to fit in as a blonde as being ginger instantly makes you a target as it doesn’t “conform to the norm” 

I used to be friends with quite a big group of girls at school but after a small falling out, it resulted in my best friend and  breaking away and from then on in I kept a very small circle of friends. As I have gotten older the person that once wanted to be liked has stopped caring so much, and this new found realisation that not everyone can, will or want to like you – it’s just a fact of life.


Don’t get me wrong, it’s still annoying and I would often ponder why people suddenly stopped talking to me, didn’t reply to my texts or unfollowed me on twitter but you know what – we are all individuals. I know I’m not everyone’s cup of tea – I’m incredibly sarcastic, a little bit weird and a bit awkward in large groups. If I don’t feel comfortable with someone then I’ll never fully open up. I can’t make small talk – I’m just dreadful at it and I guess I have just decided that life is about me. I have tried to build relationships with some people and whilst I’ll always (try) to be pleasant the fact is – we just may not get on. Personality clashes, different views, the inability to get on board with my sarcasm(!) well it’s just a way of life – BUT HEY – IT’S NOT A BAD THING!

I wish so long ago I had realised this instead of chasing one sided friendships and getting upset because someone quite blatantly didn’t like me and I couldn’t fathom why. I’m at a place in my life where I’m quite happy with my close circle and of course there’s room for many more, but from here on in I’m just not so eager to fill all the spaces. We are all grown ups and we can’t expect everyone to like everyone so don’t be offended – just go with it. Embrace the people who you get on with and accept that there will always be those who you just won’t.

B xx

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  1. 17th April 2015 / 2:29 pm

    I felt like I was reading someone describing me at some parts, I can’t make small talk to save my life, and I feel so awkward in big groups, I just don’t say anything. I don’t know what to say, as I’m shy and that’s come across as arrogance before. I wish I could say I don’t care if I’m not liked, I do care, but not as much as I used to. xx

  2. Elaine McGhee
    17th April 2015 / 7:22 pm

    I could’ve written that!! Love you xxxx

  3. 17th April 2015 / 7:50 pm

    You are so right! It really doesn’t matter, you are who you are and there’s no point or need changing to please someone else! A great lesson to teach your little ones too. Cheers to that (just having a cheeky vino as per these days!) x

  4. 17th April 2015 / 8:49 pm

    You..sarcastic?!?!?! NEVER!!! You stay as you are lady…I loves ya just as you are 🙂 XX

  5. 18th April 2015 / 5:08 am

    So true Hun. I think the older I got the more I realised this. I got bullied. What’s normal anyway? I think you are awesome and ginger hair rocks by the way. If we we’re all the same the world would be a boring place. Beauty is also skin deep. Ugly hearts make for an ugly person. You are beautiful inside and out. Xxxx

  6. 18th April 2015 / 11:47 am

    Totally with you. In fact a close friend has just stopped talking to me recently, and although I’m a bit disappointed I literally haven’t lost any sleep over it. I cannot be doing with people who ‘play games’ and who are ‘high maintenance’. GREAT post and high five to that! Jess x

  7. 18th April 2015 / 4:15 pm

    I have reached similar conclusions to you recently, and it’s made my life so much easier. I think I am just becoming more of a grumpy old git in my old age so I just cannot be bothered to make an effort if noone else can.
    I can totally relate to the acne as a teenagers, it’s awful isn’t it.

  8. 25th April 2015 / 12:43 pm

    I know how you feel. I’m not exactly your average person and even at the school gates I have other mothers take the piss about the fact that I wear a doctor who hoodie. It’s really petty. I could not care less what others think anymore I can count my closest friends on one hand and could name every person I genuinly trust. I haven’t got time for games.
    Big thumbs up and hugh fives to you!! 😀
    x