I have been keeping a little secret from you all. I’ve been waiting almost 5 weeks before sharing with you but I now finally have confirmation.
You see, when we first found out I was having twins the sonographer indicated to us that she thought they were identical twins due to a free floating membrane that was separating them (also known as the “chorion”) but this was confirmed a few weeks later when we started having our scans with our consultant. At every appointment she would check straight for the heartbeats then the free floating single membrane. The other factor that she said pointed to them being identical was the placenta; the girls were in their own sacs but sharing a placenta. With this came, the risk of twin to twin syndrome where one twin takes all the nutrition from the placenta whilst the other fails to thrive – luckily we didn’t experience this.
So as the pregnancy progressed I was telling everyone they were identical and along with that came the wondering how identical is identical and tips of putting nail varnish on a toenail to distinguish was often brought up! When the girls were born at 37 weeks, there was a 1LB1oz difference in their weights so it was easy to tell them apart luckily!
One thing that stuck with me from that day was how many times the doctors commented on the size of my placenta She said mine weighed 2kg which is 4 times the size of an average placenta now whilst this was awesome that they were so well fed it did make me wonder – did the placenta fuse?
The girls to me to really do not look identical. The hair colour is the same and occasionally they pull the same expression but as I got to know them more they looked less and less alike. People would continually ask if they were identical and I would always answer “yes we think so” but part of me really really wanted to know!
Whilst I was dead keen to know I also thought it’d be nice for them to know. The questions I get asked daily will soon become directed to them and I wanted them to grow up always being sure. So we decided to do a DNA zygostic test to see if they are identical or non identical twins. It was incredibly simple as you just needed to rub a cotton bud inside their mouths to collect salvia and off it went.
I have debated whether to include this paragraph in the post but I am always honest in my blog so… I was incredibly nervous about the results. Since the day we found out we were expecting twins in my head I have referred to and thought of my girls as identical. If the test came back to say they were non identical I was worried that it would upset me. Not because I only wanted them to be identical and definitely not because I would treat them any different because they weren’t identical but because that’s what I’ve been led to believe. Even with the little nagging voice at the back of my head muttering about placenta fusion, for over two years I’ve said they’re identical. So I decided to do the test (ironically after watching a programme where Tia and Tamera Mowry do one!) and the results came back and our twins… ARE identical!
I am so happy that now we can say with confidence and the girls will grow up knowing that they are identical.