Charlie has always been just…a lovely child. Don’t get me wrong he has his moments and loves to answer me back but as a whole he’s a really good lad. Since having the twins his gentle caring side has shown even more so.
I did worry if he may become jealous and resentful. He was 4 and a half when the girls were born so that was a long time of it just being him. One baby coming in and taking all the limelight is hard but with two it was such a massive shakeup to our family dynamic to jump from 1 to 3 but as always, he sailed along not flinching as these two little girls entered the fold. He would always be asking to help whether it be getting wipes and nappies or gently rubbing their backs. He was just amazing. And still is – even when they’re grabbing at his lego!
However, it is starting to worry me a tad that his sweet kind nature may become a slight hindrance as he gets older. He has started playing football; he absolutely loves it! Every Monday in our house is all about football after school which he waits all week for. But since this new found football craze he has started coming home filthy head to toe. His new football mates are a bit more rough and tumble and play times now together seem to be much more boisterous. He came home twice last week saying that his “friends” had pushed him in the mud “by accident” He had soaking wet mud stained pants (it was definitely mud!) that he had sat in all afternoon which made me so sad to think of him being uncomfortable.
He can sometimes be a little naive as I said games which involve pushing each other over in mud aren’t really nice and he just said “oh it was an accident” which it could well be but twice in a few days to me seems a bit strange.
I know boys will be boys and as they get older they start getting wilder and their games get rougher but I can’t help but wonder if his nice nature may result in him being taken advantage of and ultimately picked on because he won’t push them back or say horrible things.
I would much rather him be the way he is than be the one doing the pushing but I hate the thought of people seeing him as an easy target.
Do you think I’m overreacting?!