“Mom why don’t the twins have willies?”
“Because they’re girls”
“What DO they have then?”
Ok. Panic. I’m trying to peel potatoes and not slice my nail off for the second time this week (carb overload or what you cry) I was NOT anticipating a biology lesson in the kitchen at 4.45pm on a Thursday afternoon.
So did I sit him down and give him a swift science lesson? Did I explain all about the physical differences between the two genders? Did I reply with the correct terminology? Did I hell. I froze is what I did. And just didn’t know WHAT to say.
Charlie is now 6. To his credit he’s never really asked about the physical differences between him and his sisters. I did think it would happen early on when the girls were tiny but no he springs it on me’
He just stood looking at me and I said “they don’t have willies they are girls” and much to my shock. That was it. Off he went back to playing. No idea why he had chosen that time to ask or what had even provoked it. But I couldn’t help feeling like I’d totally bottled it – but WHY. I’m not a prude and I hope to have a very relaxed attitude to bodies, hormonal changes and sex but this incident has really made me question if I’m capable of ever being like that? He totally caught me off guard but at the same time surely I should have expected something by now?
Now I have to say here and now that I will never be the parent who tells their toddlers/ small children about vaginas and penises. I just can’t bring myself to hear a tiny little person saying vagina back to me. I’m sure some child expert will strike me down for saying that – but it’s my personal choice. And I won’t be saying it anytime soon.
So I’m throwing down the gauntlet – what DO you call it?
Help me out folks!!