So it happened. I knew it wasn’t far off but it well and truly has. P1 refused my boob. So with a heavy heart I have to admit that It’s time to call time on my breast feeding days, forever. And I’m not quite sure how to feel about it if I’m honest.
I’d always wanted to give breastfeeding a go with my girlies and just see how we got on. When I told people I was planning on breast feeding twins, I may as well have had a third head – but the way I saw it – two babies – two boobs! Simple. My attitude to parenting this time round has been to try and be as flexible as possible and just go with the flow.
Twitter was one of the first places I turned to after scaring the crap out of myself googling twins. I wanted to find “real” twin moms who had been through it and could tell me it from the horses mouth. Not some biased company trying to flog you their product or some politically correct medical site. And twitter was excellent!
I found other expecting twin moms, newly twin moms and ones with toddling and school age twins. They gave me invaluable advice and pointed me in the direction of products that they saw as essential
I’ve only had my girls for 20 weeks so I don’t feel like any type of “expert” however these are a few pearls of wisdom I’ve discovered the last 5 months:
1) CAR SEAT BASES = LIFE SAVERS
I cannot thank anyone who recommended these enough. Yes they are expensive but if you’re going to be taking the babies out regularly – these are an absolute essential. I do not know how I could manage a school run faffing around with seatbelts in the rain with an impatient 4yo and one baby being strapped in and another screaming. Two clicks and you’re off. AMAZING!
2) CAR SEAT COMPATIBLE PUSHCHAIR/PRAM
Having had a silver cross with Charlie that you could clip the carseat onto the wheels I really wanted to be able to do the same with my twins. Again making short car trips so simple!
3) BATH SEAT
We bought a baby bath. Don’t. Complete waste of money as trying to bath two babies at any one time is hard. However using the fiddly plastic baths which after one has gone in the water is freezing causes much more havoc. We have a chair and usually Charlie sits in the bath with one baby at the other end whilst other on the changing mat then we swap. Water saving efficiency to the max plus Charlie loves playing in the bath with them!
Ill do another blog soon with things I was worried about before the girls came. If anyone has any questions or things that I could possibly help with – let me know. It’s a scary prospect having a baby let alone two!!
When we had finally got over the shock of finding out we were having twins – my mind went into overload.
Our next scan on 28th December had confirmed they were identical so my husband caved – we could find out the gender! He had been dead set to not find out but once I pointed out how organised we needed to be and how much easier if we could prepare knowing their sex he soon came around. So we booked our scan for January. At 4pm. Meaning it was the longest day EVER! But we took Charlie with us utterly convinced it’d be two boys
I honestly would have put down thousands that it would have been boys. After having Charlie (convinced he was a girl!) in my head my future saw me with 3 boys (as I’d always said I wanted 3 if possible) so when they said there was a girl I almost passed out!
Whilst Charlie had initially wanted two brothers and I think I’d thought he would be happier with 2 boys, as soon as we put it to him he would never have to share his toys – he seemed thrilled!!
Two girls – in my head that meant one thing. PINK! I am a very girly girl so naturally that side of me went into overdrive
I feel so lucky that I have a boy to look after two girls and I get to experience both genders. It does make me chuckle the girls who haven’t got kids when we told them were all “omg that’s amazing I’d love that” yet people who do have daughters recoiled in horror…. Girls can’t be that bad – right?! Well I can honestly say we will have a baptism of fire. And the teenage years are certainly going to be entertaining!