Today is International Women’s Day. In honour I thought I would write about the incredibly strong women from my family.
My family is predominately made up of women. There are very few males and I guess I’ve definitely added to the female stakes having twin girls. I was so shocked when I found out Charlie was a boy as I presumed I’d be like everyone else and have girls. My Great Gran lived well into her 90s and was so very active and independent throughout her life. She really set the bar as to women in my family who just crack on with it.
My Gran will be 84 this year and you’d have absolutely no idea. he is fit as a fiddle and as sharp as a knife. When I look at what she’s been through in her life with so much loss and grief, I am amazed at how strong she is. She doesn’t mope about or feel sorry for herself. She is incredibly selfless and I am blown away by her ability to cope and still look after everyone.
Then there was my Mom. My beautiful amazing Mom who was the funniest, craziest, kindest, selfless, loving person I could ever have wished for in my life. As I sit here and think about it, our lives are very similar. My Dad worked away a lot when we were young and she was left holding the fort. She gave up her career and dedicated her days to looking after my sister and I. She gave us the most loving childhood filled with her love and laughter. She was the strongest lady I know, who at the age of 58 with three week old Grandaughters out of the blue was told she had 6 months to live. Yet never once did I hear a “why me” or moaning. She cracked on and in true Mom style squeezed an extra two and a half months! She was the best role model I could ever have asked for and I pray that one day my children will think of me just half of what I think of her. If this happens, I know I will have done a kick ass job.
I rarely blog about my sister, purely as I know she reads it and would be either “why are you being nice about me?” or mortified. Probably a mix of the two! But my big sister drives me crazy at times, but she despite having no kids of her own, has always taken on a mothering role towards me. She is always the one to check how you are each day, popping in on her way home to see everyone. I don’t appreciate it as I should but knowing that in the absence of having a Mom, it’s lovely to know that there still is a caring motherly presence in my life – even though I always know best eh?!
I have two little ladies of my own now and I hope to raise them in the way I was. Free to make your own choices, supported and encouraged in following my dreams. I try to let my girls be as creative as they want and strive to ensure that their individuality stands out. I am so lucky to have two daughters that are so funny, witty and little characters.