Kicking off my week of love themed posts, is my lovely friend Louise from Pink Pear Bear. She is discussing love – parent style!
The lovely Beth asked me if I would write her something about love, which got me thinking. Every five minutes we are bombarded with adverts, magazine articles or billboards showing ‘love’, or at least an idealised version of it anyway.
This time of year is the worst for it, Valentine’s Day is nearing and the advertisers would have you believe that everyone is planning their big night of passion, and maybe you are…….unless you’re a parent!
In which case your romantic date may be a night vegging on the sofa with the most loving gesture being a hand over of the remote!!
So I was thinking more along the lines of the other loving gestures parents make to each other, the signs of sacrifice that show your true love and devotion far more then any soppy card or box of chocolates.
Love: Parent Style!
- The lie in – the ultimate sacrifice, giving one of these to your partner at the weekend is the grandest gesture of love I can think of!
- Staying with sleep – bedtime! Taking on bath and bedtime single handedly for your other half so they can just relax. (Or at least clean and tidy in peace!)
- Removing the children, (and yourself!) from their presence altogether, much as they love you, you recognise that sometimes, it’s just really nice for them to be at home on their own.
- Offering to be the tissue. Now this is really taking one for the team, when there is a real snot situation and no one has a tissue, offering up your own sleeve? Well that’s love in it’s purest form right there!
- Sharing your cake. Realising that your partner has had to give away most of their own cake to your demanding offspring, giving half of yours over makes you the most romantic person on the planet.
- Changing the bedding. Everyone hates it. But everyone loves fresh bedding. That feeling of getting into a fresh bed that you didn’t have to wrestle with yourself is sheer bliss!
- Watching something that you hate because they love it. Which can be an enormous sacrifice when there are 5 series and they have ‘series fever’ and want to watch every night.
- Giving up your own hat/gloves/scarf on a cold day when your children get wet/muddy and need yours. In the same vein is offering to carry said wet/muddy/cold child home depite your nagging back problems. If you have two children, it’s offering to carry the heaviest child!
- Making the tea. We use tea in our house to communicate. Making each other cups indicates love, and if I’m angry, I’ll either not put the milk in or……shock horror, only make myself one! 😀
- Filling your own phone with all the children’s apps. Meaning you have no memory and whenever there is a boring moment, it’s your phone that is demanded!
So there you have it. If you are a parent and you’re bombarded with hearts and flowers adverts where impossibly polished and handsome men whisk their beautiful women to far flung tropical destinations to frolic in the surf and spray perfume on each other, don’t feel that you are missing out, if you can tick off any of the points on the list above, you have found real true love! Far better then any of those romantic meals on the sand of a Caribbean beach. Right? Right?! 😀
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