Charlie is such a lovely little chap. At 6, he is bright, happy and despite the ability to be a bit of a diva at times on the whole he’s a pretty easy kid. He is now in year 1 at school and from what we can gauge from his teachers reports he is really excelling especially in his maths. But with this good progress and sound knowledge brings homework and this is where I’m starting to worry.
Charlie is putting enormous pressure on himself to get things right. I am sat writing this after we had tears when practising his spellings in which he got 3 out of 10. Phonics have worked really well in his reading but when it comes to spellings it’s proving that little bit harder to grasp. But in all fairness if you have been taught to sound out the letters words such as said, treasure, little and injure are proving a bit of a challenge this week. By Wednesday we are starting to get over the hump in the road and he’s clicking with them but today there was a meltdown.
I have never ever put any pressure on his learning in any capacity. Yes we practise spellings, just as we would other subjects, but I’ve never told him he needs to get a certain amount right or been a pushy parent. I would like to think I encourage more than pressurise in all aspects of his learning and hobbies.
My parents never put any weight of expectation on my shoulders and I knew it was OK to make mistakes and it wasn’t the be all to be perfect. But where oh where has this self imposed pressure my little boy is putting on himself come from?
He is only 6. I sometimes wonder if he is actually too young to be having homework at all (we didn’t until at the very earliest year 3) but I have never experienced him get so worked up about getting something wrong. In general he is not a hugely competitive child and never has been which is why it has come as such a surprise and is hard to watch him curl his fists in anger and say he is going to get them all wrong.
I may go and chat to his teacher because I don’t want him worrying about something that really isn’t all that important in the grand scheme of things but I worry that nothing is going to change this. I have persistently tried to convey that everyone makes mistakes and he’s not going to get told off for getting one wrong but whilst he nods I don’t think it’s sinking in.
Has anyone else experienced anything like this? Would love to get any feedback or advice as it’s breaking my heart.